(Ecc. 19 = 14 "A prudent wife is from the Lord")

A. Courtship and Marriage
1. Over 50%, of his success depends upon his wife.
2. He must not fall in love from feeling, standpoint only, but must use reason.
3. She should be spiritual, educated, able to teach and to lead.

B. Her Character
1. She must be intensely spiritual Her life is also a ministry to the congregation.
2. She must complement his life. Where he is weak, she should be strong.
3. She should be content with change. She will have to be content in every state. A girl who is not satisfied under trying conditions will greatly hinder her husband. She will sometimes live in a suitcase. Wherever God leads – she must be contented.
4. She must be kind and hospitable. She must be able to put up with all types of people and love them in spite of their peculiarities. She must be able to stand criticism. She must entertain people and discuss their problems even at inconvenient times.
5. She must be consecrated

C. Her Duties in the Church
1. Preaching. She may be expected to preach.
2. Visitation. She should go with the pastor as much as possible, especially when calling on the younger ladies.
3. Advice. The girls and women are under her care. She must be able to advise them. They should feel that she is one of them.
4. Hostess. She will often be in charge of social affairs, showered receptions, etc.
5. Details. Should take care of any her husband may forget.
6. Programs. Major part in music, organize trios, choir, orchestra, etc.
7. Clothing. She will be an example of dress for the ladies in the congregation. She must be neat and clean, yet not too fashionable. It is better to be conservative in dress, but to have the best dressed soul in church. A woman on the platform is the target for many eyes. Her clot ' should be tasteful, but modest.
8. Decorations for the church. Carpets, curtains, etc.
9. Altar calls. Should be there to help young people with problems,- etc. Prayer meetings. Should help in all of these.
10. Weddings, Funerals. Help bride, etc. Be able to care for details.

D. Her Duties in Relation to Her Husband
1. She is to be his support in prayer. Private intercessor in service while her husband is preaching.
2. She can cripple or weaken his ministry by her attitude and conduct.
3. She should lavishly use the gift of encouragement on her husband This will be of great help on his "blue Mondays."
4. She should advise and correct him, observing his sermons ane1 nervous habits, and wisely correcting him.
5. She has the gift of intuition. She hears what is going on and knows the feelings of the congregation.

E. Husband's Relationship and Duties to His Wife
1. A man who lives in the public is not the same as other men. The church is often his main interest. Because his mind is of ten burdened with the woes of others, he will be tempted to' neglect his wife. She must not let her own heart be hurt.
2. The ministers wife is sometimes lonely, Children also miss daddy who is gone so much to Board Meetings, etc.
3. She must be confided in. It is her church as well as his.
4. The minister should help in the home. He expects her help also. Other wives don't have the strain and worries of pastor's wife.
5. He should honour his wife in church. Folks expect it. If he never gives her flowers or candy, the young people notice it. Help her with coat, etc.
6. Should not, expect her to raise a large family and yet live an active public life without having help. Should help with children as
well as wife.
7. Should give time to her. She will be tempted to be jealous of women who call and always want to talk with him.

F. Her Difficulties

1. Often in poverty and need but must not beg. She must learn to be thrifty.
2. Sometimes she must play second fiddle and take a backseat position. She must let her husband succeed above her. His success is ultimately hers.
3. She must.be an able substitute for her husband
4. She is not allowed intimate friends in the congregation.She must share her husband.
A . He is God's representative to men. II Cor. 5:20. "We are ambassadors of Christ- God did beseech you by us - we pray you in Christ's stead". I Cor 4:1 - Stewards of the mysteries of God."

B. A true minister is God's gift to needy mankind. He is God's representative on earth. Through his heart, God's love is manifested; through his life God's goodness is shown; through his hands God's work is done; through his lips God's message is told. As such, he should be unafraid of temporal powers and bold in  his God to proclaim the divine message.

C. He is "Called" not hired. Heb.5:4 - "and no man taketh this honour unto himself, but he that is called of God".
1. A true minister will never be hired to please the people.
2. He is called to please God. It is God's business to separate men unto the Gospel.

D. He is a prophet. "The Lord was with him, and' did let none of his words all to the ground. "
1. His words to humanity should be God's words from Heaven.
2. God speaks through him. He is a "forth-teller". The messenger is not important in himself, but his message is all in all.
3. He is a 'Voice ", a loud speaker for the divine broadcast.

E. He is a Shepherd. I Peter 5:2, "Feed the Flock of God". The Hebrew word is 'Raah' and the Greek word is 'Poimen', meaning one who tends a frock, and is the same word as pastor. The Pastor is tender, loving shepherd working under the guidance of the Chief Shepherd. As such, he is responsible before God for all the sheep. He is a leader, not a driver. He is willing to lay down his life for the sheep. Patience and watchfulness are prime virtues for a shepherd.

F. He is an Exam le. ITim.4:12 - "Be thou an example of the believers ".
1. His life should be a plain example of the way the Gospel works in human nature. Like a divine pattern moulded in human clay,
2. His life should be the pattern for lives.

G. He is a Servant. II Cor. 4:5 - Ourselves your servant for Jesus sake. Following in the footsteps of His Divine Master, the Pastor is a humble Servant. He lives to Serve. He dies to live and becomes great by humbling himself. He has no working hours, pension nor retirement. He is acquainted with human grief and carries in his own heart the burdens of human grief and carries in his own heart the burdens of hundreds of hearts.

H. He is a minister. Isa. 61:6-"Men shall call you the Ministers of our God". With Holy hands he takes the bread of life and breaks it, giving freely to hungry people. His life is a ministry, not a career. His reward is a crown, not the headlines.
A. He brings forth new life in the hearts of men whose lives are without. spiritual form.

B. Spiritual renewal by the power of God is an essential for admittance into the Kingdom of God. John 3:5-7.
1. Paul stated that every man in Christ is a new creation. II Cor.5.17, R.S.V.
2. Paul sometimes referred to the creative renewal as a spiritual resurrection. Eph. 2 - 1, 2
C. When the sinner opens his life to God, divine creative power transforms him Lk 19. 10.

D. God brings forth new life through divine forgiveness.
1. Guilt feelings are disabling; the release of them is life-giving. Psa.38.4.
2. God brings forth new life in the heart of the believer.
E. New Spiritual Dynamics are created.

1. Paul refers to the death of t.he old human disposition and the divine creation of new one. Rom.6;6.
2 There are important dynamic systems in human personality.

a. God transforms sentiments in the new birth.
i. Sentiments are driving forces in human personality.
ii. Transformed sentiments originate new purposes.
iii. A radical change in life depends upon a radical change of sentiments.

b. God transforms attitudes in the new birth.
i. Attitudes are the spontaneous tendencies to action.
ii. The Christian lives in a state of readiness to obey Christ
iii. Zacchaeus changed his attitude toward money upon meeting Christ. Luke 19: 8.

c. God transform interests in the new birth.
i. With spiritual renewal there comes new interests and values.
ii. The quality of life depends heavily on the quality of interests. Pro.23:7.

F. Divine creativity in spiritual renewal is the result of divine-human cooperation.

1. God takes the initiative, and when man responds, the human heart is transformed by divine power.
a. Man cannot save himself, but he must respond to God
b. Divine power is effective only in lives that are open to Him in a living faith.
A. Men have tried to make substitutes for repentance.

1. Psychological compensation is a common substitute for genuine repentance.
a. This is a process by which a person tries to cover up a personally unacceptable trait by doing some good thing.
b. Jesus reported the Scribes and Pharisees for saying long prayers as a substitute for their exploitative business practices. Luke 20:47.
2. Identification is another type of substitution for genuine repentance.

a. Identification is the process by which one seek to justify himself before God by assuming he has the traits of another person or institution.
b. The Pharisees and Sadducees believed that identity with Abraham's name justified them. Matt. 3: 7-10.
c. In the past, many believed that they were Christians because they belonged to a Christian Church, and the same is true today.

3. Symbolic words and acts become substitute for genuine repentance.

a. Jesus refused to accept reverential words as a substitute for obedience. Lk.6:46.
b The habit of confessing sins, by word or act without a will to forsake them is spiritually deadening.

B. Ambivalent repentance is a half-hearted repentance.

1. One comes  to believe in the "religious" life as well as the ways of the world. See Luke 9.61.

2. The contrary forces in human nature reduce one's ability to be decisive.

a . Contrary attitudes argue for different decisions.
b. No decision is therefore made for a change in life direction.

3. Rebellious impulses of the heart (loving the old ways of life) resist a change of direction.

C. Redemption repentance: is a genuine wholehearted return to God.

1. The sinner accepts responsibility for his spiritual disorder.

2. He asks God to transform attitudes, refine sentiments, create new ideals, and redirect old habits.

3. Man joins with the Almighty in condemning his sins and turns away from them.

a. Man faces judgment,
b. is forgiven, and
c. then sets out on the path of life.

4. Man has a yearning for God. Psa.42:1.

5. The need for repentance is inherent in the physical constitution of man. Psa.32:3,4

6. One may suffer ill health if he refuses to confess his sins to God.
Polemics is the theological investigation of the controversial disputations concerning the state of man's soul after death, and his ultimate salvation or damnation.

It embraces the study of certain scriptural terms such as; "hell", "grave", "eternity", "judgment", "spirit of man", "soul", "immortality", "heaven", "paradise" etc.

The question asked by Job, "Man dieth...and where is he?" is one which has been asked by multitudes, and in many cases without a satisfactory answer. The answer to this question has been a matter of intrigue to man since his existence began.

There are a number of other related questions, such as; What is man's final destiny? Does the real personality survive at death or does man become non-existant? Is he conscious? Is communication possible from the dead? Is separation from loved ones forever? Is there an intermediate state of purging?

We have a responsibility to rightly divide the word of truth and in so doing; refute and protect from the erroneous teaching of such.

- The Jehovah's Witnesses and Seventh Day Adventist idea of SOUL SLEEP.
- The Spiritist idea of CALLING UP THE DEAD.
- The Roman Catholic idea of PURGATORY.

God has not left us without answers to these many questions. In fact God' s Word is the only accurate and trustworthy source of information concerning life after death. In the scriptures God has not only revealed the origin and nature of man, but also his destiny. The Bible then will be the sole yardstick by which we will measure the views of erroneous teaching (cf. Isaiah 8:20) and sole basis for instruction for faith.
The Bible teaches very clearly that man has a spiritual nature that is distinct from his physical nature. (i.e physical body).

a. Man is a SPIRIT, he has a soul and lives in a body. Hence the spirit within man and the physical body of man are as distinct as a house and tenant within the house. The following references distinguish between spirit and body of man.

cf. Job 32:8; Zechariah 12:1; 1 Corinthians 2:11
1 Corinthians 6:20 "...glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God's".

The body and the spirit are clearly defined.

Genesis 2:7 (Literal translation of Hebrew) "And Jehovah Elohim formed a very man of the dust of the ground and blew into his nostrils the LIVING SPIRIT and man was for a living creature.

b. Man is a TRIUNE BEING
The following references show that man is in fact a triune being.

1 Thessalonians 5:23 "I pray...spirit, soul and body are preserved blameless..." Hebrews 4:12 "The word of God is quick...dividing asunder of soul and spirit and the joints and the marrow (body)..."

The Soul and the Spirit are not one and the same. Many theologians have caused confusion by treating them as synonymous. They cannot be synonymous because they can be divided (Hebrews 4:12).

The soul consists of - the will - intellect and emotions. The distinction between them and the body is as follows:

- Man's Spirit makes him God conscious
- Man's Soul makes him Self conscious
- Man's Body makes him World conscious.

- Man's Spirit contacts the spiritual realm i.e. God who is Spirit
- Man's Soul contacts the intellectual realm.
- Man's Body contacts the physical realm.

Admittedly it is very difficult at times to distinguish between the spirit and the soul because they are so closely related, what affects the one affects the other, often what is said of the one is said of the other, yet they are still distinct from each other.

cf. Psalms 35:9 "my soul... shall rejoice in his salvation"
Luke 1:47  "my spirit hath rejoiced in God, my Saviour"
Matthew 26.38      "My soul is exceeding sorrowful"
John 13:21         "...he was troubled in spirit"

Some have argued that man does not have a spiritual nature or spirit in his body, by suggesting that whenever the word "spirit" is used in such expression as "spirit within man" or "spirit in man"; the word "spirit" simply means "breath" and at death the breath passes out into space and man is completely dead.

However this is in clear conflict with the Bible. Job 34:15 says "If he set his heart upon man, if he gather into himself his spirit and his breath..."

N.B. Spirit and breath are two distinct things. If the one meant the same as the other then the verse should read  "If he gather into himself his breath and his breath..." or “his spirit and his spirit".

Notice what nonsense this idea is when the word breath is substituted for the word spirit in the following scriptures:

Acts 23:8-9; Romans 2:29; 1 Corinthians -5:9;; 2 Corinthians 7:1; Galatians 6:18

Karl Sabien makes this interesting observation in his book "Where are the Dead?"

“It is a known fact that the matter in our body is gradually and constantly changing. We are not the identical persons we were seven years ago. New cells are continually being added to our bodies, which other cells are continually being removed as waste products. The old cells are gradually being replaced by new ones. After this process has continued for a period of approximately seven years, all the cells have been replaced, and none of the old cells remain. The body, as to actual cells which compose it, has been changed, thus we have a new body in a very short time. This means we have a new brain - an entirely different brain approximately every seven ears.

It is a remarkable fact that while we have a new brain in a very short time yet memories remain. People can remember clearly events that occurred many, many years back. Aged people especially are noted for their memory of childhood days. The brain may have been changed many times, yet with an entirely different brain one is able to remember to the smallest detail events and experiences of previous years. We can also acquire new experiences, but they like those of the past, cannot be erased from our memories - they are indestructible. What is the explanation to this phenomenon? There is but one, namely: there is an indestructible spirit or spiritual nature in man.

Certainly there can be no doubt about the existence of the human spirit. It is the spirit, the real individuality, distinct from the body that remembers and remains long after the body has been changed many times - it carries the memories and survives all other great bodily changes.

This is in perfect harmony with 1 Corinthians 2:11 "For what man knoweth the things of a man, save the 'spirit' of man which is in him?"

This shows that the seat of knowledge in man, is not in the flesh and bones, nor even in the brain, but in the ‘spirit' which is in him. It shows that the physical brain not the source of thought and will, and memory. While the brain is unconscious in sleep the spirit can have real experience. It is not the body, but the spirit that thinks, wills, plans, remembers, and holds communion with God.

When a person dies, the brain, eyes, ears, nerves are still the same members - they are still there - yet the brain cannot think, the eyes cannot see, the ears cannot hear, the nerves produce no feeling. Why? Because it was not the body, but the real spiritual nature within the body, that did the thinking, seeing, hearing, and feeling."